I mentioned last week that I've been struggling with my kids' behavior. One of the actionable items I decided to try was to avoid focusing on (OH SO MANY of...) the negative issues with each of my kids and encourage them in areas where they were doing well.
At first, this was not easy. The selfish, nasty, disobedient moments were so glaringly obvious, and I was so incredibly frustrated, that finding the positive was difficult. I'm not that it wasn't there, I was just having trouble seeing it.
I put an alarm on my FitBit to go off four times each day. My wrist got a little vibrating reminder thoughout the day to give the kids a compliment or point out a reason that I was proud of them. All three kids weren't always around me when the alarm buzzed, but it helped me stop and be intentional about looking for something positive RIGHT THEN in that moment.
It's been more than a week and I've seen a great response from each of my kids. Focusing on the positive has helped them step into the role with pride.
Unfortunately, Mike has been working like crazy, so I wasn't able to cross him off of this task (just yet) because I barely saw him enough each day to say three encouraging things to him. BUT #70-72 are crossed off my 101 goals in 1001 days list.